New Site Rule

Hi everybody!

I’m just going to get right into it: I need to make a new site rule. It hasn’t often popped up, but with the rise of own voices in the ace community, I’ve been increasingly uncomfortable with the erasure of ace POC and their voices. And I’m seeing a lot of white aces refusing to check their privilege and completely ignoring intersectionality (especially when it comes to ace activism). That has got to stop: acephobia is not the ultimate oppression and it’s experienced differently by different aces, depending on a number of factors. By white aces refusing to check their privilege, they are causing so much harm to ace POC.

And look, I know I’m just a little site about art, but I’m also an intersectional feminist. I can’t do much to change the dialogue in activist circles, but I can try to make this site as equal as it can be. That’s why I have an open door policy for interviews (mostly): if you create, than you’re an artist and I want to interview you.

Anyhow, the new site rule: Asexual Artists will not recommend or signal boost any list of “own voices” that does not include ace POC. Any list of “great ace and aro representation” that does not include ace authors/creators of color, will be edited out of interviews and not posted on this site. And it can’t be one fleeting mention of one POC author or creator among a sea of white authors or creators. They have to be at least in equal numbers and with equal coverage/mention.

I try to make this site as safe as it can be for everyone and I probably should have declared this rule much earlier. However, there it is and it will be enforced.

Thanks everyone!

A Friendly Reminder

(This is more an issue on Tumblr, but I wanted to make it clear on both sites)

Hello Everyone!

How are you all doing? Well I hope.

Okay, so I just finished taking down an interview that I did a while back with an artist because said artist has been posting a shit-ton of anti-ace rhetoric (and agreeing with it) on and off for a while now. At first I just ignored it and I admit, that was rather poor judgement on my part.

So I wanted to be clear:

THIS BLOG HAS A ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY WHEN IT COMES TO BIGOTRY!

That means no antisemites, no Islamaphobes, no TERFs, no REGs, no racists, no misogynists, no bigots, no acephobes, no arophobes, no homophobes, no biphobes, no ableists, no classists, etc. If you harm any marginalized group or peoples, you are not welcome on my site and I sure as hell won’t feature you. If I catch wind of you participating in any kind of hate speech or bullying, I will take your damn interview down so freaking fast your head will spin. And it will NEVER be reposted (you can beg and plead and apologize all you want, it won’t sway me).

You want to act like a bigoted asshole, fine. But you won’t be welcome on my site.

And another thing, if you’re a damn acephobe who has been participating in the discourse on Tumblr, you aren’t welcome here. I don’t care if you’re a self-hating ace. I will block you, just like all the other bigots who try to message me.

Also, and forgive me for being a little personal here, if you’re interviewed by an aro-ace, maybe don’t talk shit about aro-aces. Just a thought.

This blog is a safe space for aces and their allies, as well as those who want to know more about asexuality. I take that very seriously.

Thanks everybody! 🙂 ❤

Tagging, Not Censorship

(Reposted from Tumblr)

Confession:  I’m an intersectional feminist (probably lost a few followers with that).  What this means, in the simplest of terms, is that I recognize different women experience sexism differently because of things like race, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, etc.

My intersectionality extends to how I approach asexual activism.  Not all asexuals are the same or have the same experience.  There are some sex-repulsed aces out there.  There are aces who have jobs that could potentially be threatened if they’re caught looking at some of these interviews.  They may come from or live in a more conservative place.

Those aces are just as welcome on this site as those who don’t have these experiences.  And they deserve to be safe and protected too.

If you’re crying censorship over tagging, what you’re saying is you assume your experience is universal and that is quite a dickish opinion to hold (not to mention a harmful one).  This isn’t PC culture run amok.  This is recognizing different people have different experiences and respecting that fact.

Tagging is a courtesy.  Tagging isn’t silencing anyone.  It’s being compassionate and the world would be a better place if there were more of it.

Let me be perfectly clear:  my obligation is to protect both the artists and followers of this site, which is a responsibility I take very seriously.

Artists:  Your work will never be censored or rejected.  You are free to express yourself in whatever way you want to.  You will not be judged.  You will always be welcomed and safe here.  I only ask that you follow the rules of the site (see the FAQ)

Followers:  You will also be protected.  I will strive to make this place as safe as it can possibly be for you.  To achieve that, I will start tagging things as follows –

Potentially Triggering/Potentially NSFW: means the images in the interview contain violence, gore, or sexually suggestive images

NSFW: the work contains nudity or other risque imagery, which could potentially be seen as objectionable to more conservative minds.

I’ll spend tonight going through the interviews on this site to add these new tags.  It may take me a couple days, but I promise you, it will be completed.  If I miss something, please send me a message to let me know.

Anyhow, I’ve got work to do.  Thank you, my dear artists and followers, for being the amazing and talented people you are 🙂

A Word about Abusive Behavior

I posted this on the Tumblr site, which is where I’ve been having the issue.  However, since this site is connected to it, I wanted to make a note of it here as well.

Hello all.

For the past week, I’ve been getting messages from a person whose interview I cancelled due to implied abusive behavior towards people with breasts.  If you look at the FAQ of this site, you’ll see that I have a zero tolerance policy in regards to the abuse of others.  I’m extremely lenient about what goes on this site and I’ll never censor an artist or their work (if I’m sent something potentially triggering, I try to include a warning on the interview and will mention it to the artist).  It takes a hell of a lot to make me actually cancel an interview.  However, once you cross that line, you cannot uncross it.

Asexual Artists is here to raise awareness of ace artists and the gorgeous work they produce.  It’s meant to boost voices that otherwise wouldn’t be heard.  Most of all, it’s meant to be a safe space for people on the ace and aro spectrums, as well as those who wish to be better allies to these groups.

If you violate this safe space, you are not welcome here.  If you make me, or any artist on this site, feel unsafe, you will not be welcome here.

  • If I wind up cancelling your interview, I do not owe you an explanation.  Nor will you get one.  You don’t get a do-over.  If you act gross and/or abusive, your interview is cancelled.  End of story.
  • If you continue bombarding me (or my administrators) with messages and demands, you will be blocked from this blog (and my other social media sites).  This is abusive behavior and my obligation is to the safety and well-being of the artists on this site, the aces (and others) who follow this site, and myself.
  • If you send your friends to badger me on your behalf, they too will be blocked.
  • I will not upload/post/signal boost any work that’s even tangentially connected to the abusive individual nor will I interview anyone connected to them.  Especially if they’ve been blocked.  You will not worm your way back into this site, no matter how clever you try to be.  Once this platform is closed to an individual, it is permanently closed.

I’m actually surprised it took this long for a problematic individual to find this site.  180+ interviews without a problem is a fairly good streak.  And I keep getting new requests almost every day.

I’m sure I’ll still be getting messages from said individual for a while longer (and/or people connected to their work asking to be interviewed).  I’ve already made up my mind and I will not allow toxicity on this site.

Rest assured, Asexual Artists isn’t going anywhere.  As frustrating as this situation is, I am still determined to keep this site going.  A few rotten apples will not scare me away.  There are too many amazing and wonderful ace artists out there who deserve to get attention for their beautiful work.

So thank you, artists and followers, for following the guidelines of the site and making it the wonderful platform that it is.  You continue to amaze and inspire me.  You’re why I pour so many hours and so much work into this site.  Much love to all of you.