Today we’re joined by Hadley. Hadley is a wonderful writer who mostly does co-writing. They’re essentially a ghostwriter for their friends as they prefer to just help with plots and characters. They clearly enjoy writing, as you’ll soon read. My thanks to them for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about your art.
I wouldn’t necessarily call it art, but I guess to some it could be perceived as much. I mostly help others with writing stories and help with plot lines, characters, and keeping things balanced. I’m essentially a co-writer, but most of the times I request to not be specifically named because of personal reasons. I myself write, mostly for myself and friends, but when I run low on enthusiasm I really enjoy helping others.
What inspires you?
Anything. I have an over active mind so absolutely anything can get mind running. Specifically, though, hanging out with friends, listening to music, playing video games, and watching Netflix get my mind really moving.
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
It was Darren Shan’s book series Cirque du Freak that really clicked with me. I started reading it in 6th grade and it really opened my eyes to all the possibilities in the world of literature. I continued to read all his books that I could get my hands on, and, eventually, I found out about free online books through Nook, Kindle, and even Wattpad.
Back then I thought I was going to either die before I graduated high school, or I was going into the military, but I remember wanting to be a musician of some sort. I never imagined myself becoming a co-writer/author.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
Gore. Mostly in a way to pay homage to Darren Shan. Sometimes the genres I work with won’t allow that so it’s only sometimes.
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
Do it while you have the motivation. Write, draw, sing, dance, whatever while you have the courage and enthusiasm to do so. Its best to do it now and live with the experience later, good or bad.
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
I honestly just identify with asexual. I don’t really try to focus on specifics and I feel like I would hurt my head trying to really grind down to the root of my sexual identity. I mostly just find sex unnecessary and I’m generally repulsed by the thought of ever engaging in any suggestive activities.
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
In my field, no, definitely not. I have encountered some confusion with people that I’ve worked with, but that was simply them misunderstanding what it meant or what it was. I mostly just try to understand their confusion and work with them so they can learn from their mistake.
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
That all aces will die alone. I myself might, but I find it odd that people assume that, just because I don’t find sex a need in a relationship, it immediately wipes the dating board clear. It’s frustrating cause it insinuates that the only reason people get partners is for sex and that asexuals themselves cannot satisfy a partner to the same extent. It’s just plain aggravating.
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
Just chill out. Finding out your orientation doesn’t have to be a struggle, it can be an experience if you let it. Just go with the flow of things and let tides of life take you to where you’re supposed to go. Your sexuality doesn’t have to be at the forefront, so take your time and experiment. Imagine yourself in different situations, play with ideas in your head, hell, test out your ideas (but safely please). And don’t be so set in stone. Sexuality is fluid so when something changes, don’t worry.
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
As of right now nowhere. As I said before I don’t say when I’ve helped write a book and I have agreements with some of the people that I’ve helped to not disclose who co-wrote. It’s for safety and personal reasons mostly. But, I hope to soon be posting some of my own personal writing to my Tumblr bigolwheatboy.tumblr.com (a silly name, I know). But for now, I’m going to remain anonymous.
Thank you, Hadley, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.