Today we’re joined by Cherry. Cherry is a fantastic writer who loves to write original stories and aims to publish a series some day. On the rare occasions she’s not writing, Cherry also loves to cosplay. My thanks to her for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about your art.
I’m a writer and I’m constantly writing, sometimes multiple stories at a time! Currently I’m settled on one story that I hope to publish and make into a series with several main characters who are on the ace spectrum! I also cosplay on the side!
What inspires you?
I’ve read plenty of stories where there are only few gay characters and even then they’re written by people who are so obviously straight and they write them wrong or push them to the side. I get angry because they put steeotyoes on their characters and often they don’t even talk about asexual people. I write to make characters like me and reassure myself that what I feel is valid and okay to feel and, honestly, it’s really helped. I used to feel so ashamed about who I was but writing was the greatest outlet I had and now I’m so proud of who I am.
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
I got into writing when I was eleven, I wanted to express myself and I loved reading so I thought I would give it a try! I started with fan fiction and I ended up loving it so I started moving on to my own stories and I’ve been at it since then! I can’t think of a day I haven’t written!
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
My writing style is very lax. I’ve always found books to be so formal and stiff so I make my writing have my sense of humor so the readers can laugh and enjoy my story :)!
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
There’s always going to seem there’s someone in your field that is better than you.
And that’s okay.
Just focus on yourself and work hard to improve on what you love to do. Writing or drawing isn’t a born trait, you need to work at it everyday. Also you don’t need to fit a mold of how it should be done. It’s wonderful when it’s done your way.
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
Homoromantic and possibly demisexual or gray ace. I haven’t really been able to figure out yet, but I have all the time in the world!
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
Yes I have. From my own parents, friends, and coworkers. I’ll tell people who I am and they think something’s wrong with me. I tend to explain it but if they don’t get it then it’s whatever, they’re not worth my time. They’re not in a relationship with me so their opinion of me not wanting sex doesn’t matter to me.
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
“You just haven’t met The One™”
“Once you have it, you’ll like it.”
“You’re not part of the LGBT community if you’re ace.”
“If you haven’t tried it, how do you know you don’t like it?”
“Not being able to get turned on? That’s a disease!!” (Actually heard that one today while talking to a coworker who was referring to another ace)
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
You are so valid and there is nothing wrong with not feeling sexual attraction and not wanting to have sex. Sex does not equal love and you should not force yourself to do anything you don’t want to do. You don’t need to have sex to know you don’t want it. If your partner was really The One™ then they wouldn’t make you have sex if you don’t want it or guilt trip you into doing so. They would love you how you are and wouldn’t change anything about you.
You are not broken. You don’t have a disease. You are so perfect the way you are don’t let anyone tell you other wise. You have a long life ahead of you, you don’t need to label yourself right away as Demi, gray ace, sex repulsed ace, sex indifferent ace, whatever. Just figure yourself out, safely, and just live life. You are a valid ace, with a sex life, or not.
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
I haven’t exactly posted my work online since it’s still very much so in the works but you can contact me on Tumblr (at) Chulacereza I’d love to talk about my story!
Thank you, Cherry, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.