Today we’re joined by Luke Moy. Luke is a wonderful writer who specializes in essays and non-fiction, though he’s currently working on his first novel. He’s working towards a degree in Creative Writing, and also studies Women and Genders studies. Luke is definitely a passionate writer and has a very bright future ahead of him. My thanks to him for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about your art.
I’m a writer, mostly essays and non-fiction material, but I love to write short stories, and I’m currently working on a book, so that’s exciting! I’m working towards a degree in Creative Writing too.
What inspires you?
There are many people and things that inspire me. My close friends are supportive of me and I always draw inspiration from them. A lot of the author community on Twitter of late has given me drive to continue working on my writing. The shows and books I love leave significant personal impressions on me too.
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
I’ve loved writing, or storytelling before I knew how to write. The ability to craft worlds and especially characters and themes around them has always fascinated me, and the authors who are able to do that well click with me almost instantly, so I guess that’s what got me interested in it informally. My parents are both academics (Dad’s a professor, Mom’s a historian), so I’ve always had the academic side of writing and English (and gender studies too) in me.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
Not really. I do enjoy crafting characters around specific ideologies and setting them against each other, though. Working out different points of view and having them in discussion, I find that extremely satisfying.
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
Keep at it if you’re struggling, give it a try if you’ve never done it before. I think also it’s important to put as much of yourself into a project as possible, because if you find that you’re doing that automatically, chances are you love it and will stick with it.
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
I’m kinda still figuring that out honestly.
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
I did in my Feminist Theory class this past semester. The professor was recounting a conversation between her and her daughter about sex (the two were having the “birds and the bees” discussion as you do), and her daughter asked her why people would want to have sex in the first place. It crystallized for me (and for the professor) how conversations about sex especially from an early age are not only heteronormative but also extremely presumptive that this is an action that we will all do and want to do as some point. So, I approached the professor after class and thanked her for that insight but was also a bit sad that she didn’t delve further into the topic of asexuality (not even bothering to name the orientation in her discussion with us) or talk about the history of the orientation or anything. To my delight, she actually went back to the syllabus and added an entire reading on asexuality to our next days’ reading assignment (Kristen Scherrer’s “Coming to an Asexual Identity” in Sexualities, if you wanna check it out). This was great, because she could’ve just acknowledged me and went about her day, but she didn’t; she took my insights to heart and made the class learn more about it. Not exactly a story of prejudice, per se; I just think it’s nice that people are sometimes willing to listen to others and take their experiences into account.
Socially, I tend to find people, through no fault of their own, still operating under the impression that sexual attraction is universal, so I sometimes find myself wanting to object to that assumption. Conversations can get pretty stalled since people seem to not be interested in talking about different experiences, so sometimes it feels like I’m being dismissed out of hand.
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
Probably people equating a lack of sexual attraction as meaning a lack of sexual action, which are two very different things. Sexual action is still possible without sexual attraction, and vice versa. So that’s something people don’t really get; I myself still have to remind myself of the difference from time to time.
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
I’d say talk to people. Find a community you’re comfortable with and talk about your orientation or experiences or ideologies. I cannot stress the “comfortable with” part of that; a lot of people tend to dismiss asexuality out of hand, so it’s important to find people who really listen to you and want to talk about this stuff. Also, what worked for me in terms of getting comfortable with my orientation was learning about it, online, in the ace community, and so on. As a WGS major, I also find the different ideologies surrounding the orientation and its history interesting (even if most of them are highly problematic), and am able to learn more about myself that way too, so that’s an option for you. I would remind you all that there is more to love than sex; in our sex-dominated culture (with innuendoes, taboos, porn, etc), it can be really hard to feel like sex isn’t everywhere, because society would love for you to believe that it is. But it’s not. For example, there’s a lot more that you do in a day than have sex, obviously, so looking at the world in that respect might help some of you, recognizing that there’s so much more to do in the world.
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
I have a blog… it’s a kinda sparse thing now ‘cause I don’t post a lot on there, but some of my writing can be viewed there.
This was a fun interview to do! I always love finding more people in the ace community to talk to and to interact with! Stay strong!
Thank you, Luke, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.