Today we’re joined by Rylie. Rylie is a wonderfully talented aro-ace poet and fanfiction writer who is incredibly enthusiastic about writing. As she states in her interview, she writes a lot. Chances are we’ll be seeing a lot of her work in the future. My thanks to her for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about your art.
I write. A lot. Like, seriously a lot. Most of it is fanfiction, but I also do a lot of poetry, and I’ve dabbled in some slam poetry. That was actually how I came out to most of my friends.
(Sometimes I pretend I can draw or make other types of art, but the only people who are impressed are under the age of 8, so.)
What inspires you?
For poetry, usually reading other poetry. Listening to slam poems. For fanfiction, sometimes nothing, or sometimes the strangest things. Sometimes I write for prompts, but not all the time. Inspiration is a fickle thing for me.
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
I’ve always been a writer. I remember when I was young, sneaking into the bathroom at night because I hid a notepad and pen underneath the bathtub. That way I’d have an excuse if my parents caught me.
Being a writer was sort of always a job option, but medicine took precedence. Writing will always be a hobby though.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in our work that you’d be willing to reveal?
Not really? A lot of my work is pretty concise, and not overly detailed. Eloquent, I suppose.
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
Oh man. Keep going, I guess. Just keep going. Don’t ever delete anything or throw anything out. Sure, it may be awful, but you’ll look back on it one day and be happy that you kept it, because you can see how far you’ve come. Progress is important.
And some days you’ll feel like everything you come up with is shit. That’s okay too. Keep going. You’ll get through it.
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
I identify as asexual aromantic.
(Although to be honest, I don’t know how to tell friendships apart from romantic relationships, but that’s more a social skills deficit than anything else, I think.)
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
I’m not out to most people (family), but my friends had a great response to my coming out slam poem. That was really great. (A girl actually came up to me and thanked me for it, because she thought that there was something wrong with her. That made me happy.)
When I’ve posted things for ace awareness week, people have asked me about it, and made some comments that made me uncomfortable.
There was also an incident in a LGBTQ group at school where someone made a comment about asexuality that was kind of hurtful, especially for it being a safe space.
Mostly it’s tough because no one knows it exists.
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
Its existence. A lot of people don’t know about asexuality, or demisexuality, or aromanticism at all. That makes it tough to come out when you constantly have to defend yourself and explain.
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
It’s okay if you don’t figure it out right away. Don’t let anyone tell you that your experiences aren’t valid, because they are. You’re the one who knows you the best.
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
Most of my fanfiction is on AO3. (http://archiveofourown.org/users/whitchry9/works)
Some of my poetry can be found on my tumblr (http://ijustreallylovedaredevil.tumblr.com/tagged/i-write-things), but I often don’t share it all. As for slam poems, I’ve only ever performed the one, so it’s hard to share them.
Thank you so much, Rylie, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.